Things That Make You Go Hmmm...

Despite the way some people act with each other, I still believe in humanity. We just have to work harder in being an ideal population.

Just thought I would share with you some interesting things that we have to work on to strengthen humanity. These are true events that happened in a small town.

Event 1:

I was recently invited for coffee and cake at a friend's home, when all of us were telling the hostess which neighbors we knew in her neighborhood. I and several others mentioned that we had sent donations of food to one of her neighbor's across the street. Another friend mentioned the neighbor's name. Our hostess said that she did not know that family because they had moved about four months ago. Needless to say, our hostess felt a little embarrassed not knowing that her own neighbor was in need of assistance.

Lesson learned (I am sure you can learn more): Get to know your neighbors. Visit them, especially when they first move to the neighborhood.

Event 2:

Due to schedule conflicts, I finally had the chance to meet with a friend. Her son and mine are friends since preschool days. I took with me one bag of candies and another bag of chocolates since it was awhile when I last socialized with my friend. I visited with my friend while our sons played for 2.5 hours, and not once did my friend offer something to drink or eat. She didn't even offer my son a drink of water, after he came in from playing outside sweating. He asked for it. My friend also opened the bag of chocolates and ate one in front of me, not offering any.

My friend's family has money. They travel the world. They have expensive tastes. To me there is a difference of being frugal and cheap. This is really cheap.

Now the point is not eating or drinking, but hospitality. What happened to being hospitable? Are the days of entertaining guests formally or casually die? Is it the norm to expect not to be offered things when you attend gatherings?

Customer Service is STILL a Must

Just because we are becoming more advanced in technology, doesn't mean that we must through customer service out the window. In fact, customer service can make or break a business because of the increase in services and products due to technology and other variables.

Plenty of people will change businesses if they feel they are not being respected by them. I did that. I wasn't very satisfied at this one business I was dealing with that I decided to leave there and go to another business, although I have been there for more than 10 years. It wasn't a hard decision for me because I know of other businesses who deal with their customers in a kinder fashion.

So my point is don't feel like you have to stick with a certain type of business if you are not happy as a customer. Don't let the times fool you. Customer service is STILL a must.

Reflection of the World

You ARE the reflection of the world. When people meet you, you represent the world to them. You will help them decide if the world is a lovely place or a terrible one. You will always be remembered as a happy and good person, or you can be remembered as a negative thinking person.

You are that powerful to influence others. So, when you do meet your family, friends, colleagues and acquaintances, remember how you deal with them will be their view of the world.

As the old cliche goes, "Treat people the way you want to be treated"--with respect.

Your Mother Was Right

Your mother was right. If you cannot say something nice, do not say anything at all. Why should people be criticized or insulted because you cannot resist the urge to "spoil" the atmosphere or the mood of that poor soul? Seriously. Put yourself in that person's position. How would you feel? Annoyed, I am sure.

So, the next time you have the urge to "insult" a poor soul for no real reason, remember yourself and how you would feel if that happened to you. Instead ask that person, how are they feeling and how is life.

Don't forget to say please and thank you!

Remember this. Life is not easy for you and for others as well. You and others have to deal with what life gives you--happiness, dreams, frustrations, obstacles,and challenges, to name a few. Human interaction on the social level is crucial for humanity's existence, so we have to be careful of how we treat each other.

I have a few rules that I try to follow. I write try because after all I make mistakes just like everyone else. It takes a conscious effort to pay attention to your attitude and personality. That takes practice.

Here are some rules that I live by:

1. I always smile when I greet someone because I like to see people smile. At first, this was started as an unconscious act until a friend told another friend that she has never seen me not smile as I walk into a room full of people. That made me pay more attention because I realize that anything we do can influence others.

2. I always ask how have they been doing? I always want to know the latest happenings with them.

3. I like to help people in any way I can. When a fellow human succeeds, you succeed as well. When a fellow human tumbles and fall, you tumble and fall as well. Whether you like it or not, we are all in this together.

These are the top three that came to my mind right now. So, the next time you hang out with some one or some people, just remember to treat them kindly or if you are feeling stressed out, tell them. Don't snap at them because you don't know what they have been or gone through.

Something to think about...